“As a black man, you are my equal, my counterpart. America looks down on us simply because of the color of our skin, so I expect us not to put each other down. Life me as I lift you, support me as I support you, love me as I love you.” – Nerd Boo
That was the response that I received today when I asked that question. I followed that up by asking do I make her feel safe and protected when we’re out? I was told that I do. What made that come up? Well, it seems as if with more issues of street harassment on the rise, more ladies are wishing that more men stick up for them. Now I’m starting to wonder am I doing something wrong? When I’m going to work or elsewhere in my travels, I’m alert to my surroundings. But am I supposed to be a vigilante searching out for justice?
I know that these things occur because I hear about them often. It’s disgusting what ladies have to deal with on the daily but if I’m accompanying them, I don’t hear none of that. Now is it because I may be an imposing figure? I get that a lot. “Oh Derek, you’re so intimidating.” I’m actually not. I remember I was dating a young lady a few years ago and a co-worker of hers was in town as well so we met up with them and he thought I was mean as fuck. I’m like really?!
But the point of this post is for us to have mature dialogue on this subject. You say that you want us to help you, we need to know how? I’ve seen hashtags and other posts on this but we need to communicate to each other and not play tit for tat. In the end, we all need each other. We can do better as a united front rather than cause further damage being divided.